Marriage: A Passionate Journey

The Song of Solomon 4:7–12, 5


  1. Many Christian marriages do not fail because of a lack of love but because of a lack of passion.
    1. Solomon is writing to his first love, true love, sharing that passion on his heart given to him as a gift
    1. We tend in the church & in Christian families to not talk about sex - because we do not the rest of the world does
  2. Sexual passion, like all passions of the heart, may arise from one of two natures: the spiritual nature or the sinful nature.
    1. God's offering is a calling of a life of passion that is beautiful
    2. The world offers a calling of a life of sensuality that is an attempt to substititue for God's gift



v. 7, “You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.”


Our Passion Affects What We See.

  1.  Our passion is affected by what we see when we allow temptations to take us further away from the first love
    1. The more Solomon was placed in situations where more women are in front of him he accepts not only the "best" for someting less
    2. Passion is a call on our lives to see as God sees to gift he places in front of us. 


v. 9, “You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride; you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.”


Our Passion Affects What We Feel.

  1. The first jewel is not the only jewel, but can be if we do not look for more
  2.  the look is not for someone else but an anticipation of the growth of the same
  3. Passion is not to burn out but to burn on
  4. The passion grows when two hearts come together in a shared love, enlightened by the presence of God, and given endurity by the gift of time together 


vv. 10 & 11, “How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride!  How much better is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your oils than any spice!  Your lips drip nectar, my bride; honey and milk are under your tongue; the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.”


Our Passion Affects What We Think.

  1.  Even when his love is not around, his mind is consumed by the thought of her - engulfed by an odor that is so strong it's like being in the middle of all the cedar
  2. Phi 4:8 



vv. 12 & 15, “A garden locked is my sister, my bride, a spring locked, a fountain sealed… a garden fountain, a well of living water, and flowing streams from Lebanon.”


Our Passion Affects What We Desire.

  1. spring locked & fountain sealed - a woman who is willing to keep herself pure
  2. well of living water - passion affects our desire - if we are always seeking things not of God, our passion is pulled away from God
  3. Marriage becomes one of the greatest illustrations of how our relationship to God ought to be - his passion is for us so much that he sacrificed his son - a passion unmeasured.
  4. We discover wnat love looks like not by looking to the false gods of the worlds "TV, movies" draw the picture of what love and sex shoud look like.